Family, and Family Values; now there are topics which will set you to thinking.
Here, in the State of Kentucky, we "PONDER" on subjects in our spare time so that we can converse more intelligently when the opportunity arises.
I doubt that I will ever see the day when I am recognized as one of the world's great thinkers but I revel in the process, surprising even myself with certain home-spun logic I didn't know I possessed.
Please remember that everything I am writing here is the way I see the matter, my opinion. It may not be right, and certainly anyone who reads it has the right to disagree, and I'm sure many will, but read on and allow me to have my say on the subject.
When I'm thinking about the problems families are facing today, my natural tendency is to compare all others to my own. I suppose most of us can say, with relevance to families, we have seen the matter from more than one perspective. As children, we held a vastly different position in life then we, who have become Parents, hold at the present time.
The family structure, as we know it, evolved naturally. There is, and always has been a "Pecking Order" within its organization. The Parents, however they sorted it out, determined between themselves, one is dominant, has more authority, has the last word in all important decisions affecting the unit as a whole, and the other is subordinate.
Just think about it. If we can fully accept all that History and Science has to teach us, with their bones and artifacts or written records, we know that early man and his family, clan or tribe, whatever the correct terminology may be, had a Leader, Chief or Top Dog of some sort. He may simply have been the best Warrior, or he did most of the hunting, providing the means for staying alive. No doubt, he was also the groups main means of protection.
He was the "Biggest" or the "Strongest", putting down any opposition to his leadership with a large club of some kind, but he was "The Boss".
"The Boss" got the best of everything; I believe they would have been very self-centered and selfish, after all, they learned how things should be by watching nature. They had the best of the provisions, the best "Mates", the best position in relation to the fire which warmed them and warded off wild beasts. This list could get quite lengthy, so I will assume you have gotten the idea by now.
Your possessions amounted to what you were able to take from nature and others you were able to overpower.
I can't help but think about the aspect of "Feuds" between families. It isn't fiction, those events really happened. A mini-war went on until the two families were in danger of becoming extinct.
Families have a "Code," rules that are accepted and lived by. We may call it something else today, but nevertheless, a code is what we have. Reduced to the simplest of terms, practically all human, social organizations are founded upon a similar structure. If we could solve the problems facing our families, perhaps we would be well on the way to solving the problems of the world concerning all relationships.
Family values evolved right along with families. Who can define the process by which thoughts of what is right and wrong were either adopted or rejected as part of an acceptable family code, and then passed down from generation to generation. Could it have been as simple as trial and error?
What drew groups together to form hamlets, villages, towns and cities? Was it the basic knowledge that there was greater safety in numbers?
All I know for sure is that at sometime, someone must have thought that the proven methods used by our predecessors were all wrong concerning family structure and family values. They needed to be changed if we are to progress as a civilization. We don't need a Higher Power to believe in. Families don't need an authority figure to head-up the group. Discipline should be administered with speech and reason, not with your basic club and the strength to wield it. We are all equal and free to live exactly as we please, regardless of the fact that the chosen lifestyle may threaten humanity as a whole.
All of this pondering can cause one a massive headache and mine is throbbing right now, but I feel that it needs to be done, if for no other reason than my own understanding.
Have you ever given any thought to the mechanics of social change? Does it begin in the halls of government and flow down to the most basic unit, the family? Or, does it begin on the most basic level and struggle upward toward those in power? What are your thoughts on the process?
Where are we going people? Is it too late to rethink what we are about? Does the love and responsibility we feel for others count for nothing, even when we know that their actions and deeds are wrong? Life is about making choices. I pray we make the right ones.